Our purpose here is to teach you how to lucid dream. Of course learning how to lucid dream is in many ways quite natural, and many people report having spontaneous lucid dreaming experiences without even trying. That said, learning how to lucid dream frequently takes time and patience, and that is what we are all about. In this post we discuss a few aspects of the task of learning how to lucid dream: What age is best to start, how to use dream signs, and how to lucid dream with a partner.
How to Lucid Dream at Any Age
Is there a perfect age to learn how to lucid dream? Will it be easier or harder during certain times in your life? The answers to these questions can be simple of complicated, depending on how much information you are looking for. The easiest answer is that lucid dreaming is possible and exciting at any age. Most anyone can benefit from the potential of lucid dreams to help you solve problems, reduce anxiety, and have adventures. And also, most anyone can learn how to lucid dream. But there are some subtle differences in the ease of learning lucid dreaming, for example:
1. Our overall number of dreams, aside from any influence of medications or diet, is higher when we are younger because we have more REM sleep when we are younger. So for overall number of dreams where lucidity will be impossible, younger people may have an advantage.
2. Despite #1, as we get older the themes in our dreams get deeper and often coalesce, so it may be easier to know what recurring dreams can become lucid dreaming triggers, and there may be more opportunity within the dream for lucid dreaming states to enter.
3. We also may get better at remembering our dreams as we get older, or at the very least we get better at focusing our efforts on remembering our dreams the longer we are at it. In this way, our ability to remember our lucid dreams may improve as we age, even if we are having fewer dreams overall.
4. Our motivation to learn how to lucid dream may also go up as we age. We may want to work more deeply on issues we are experiencing, or we may want to consolidate life experiences. Our motivation to overcome challenges generally increases. So while a younger person may enjoy the adventure of lucidity, and older person may have more uses for the skill.
How to Lucid Dream with a Partner
While it is not possible to share an actual dream experience with another person, it is possible to share the experience of learning how to lucid dream with a friend or partner. Working with someone else, or even a small group of people as you pursue lucid dream adventures has many benefits, including having others to problem solve with when you are stuck, having the experience take up more of your conscious awareness so that it might enter your sleep awareness too, and to generally compare techniques and ideas with others. Working with someone else or a small group of others as you pursue lucid dreaming and generally learn about your dream meanings also helps you generally get support and share your excitement.
One thing to remember when working with others is that everyone will learn how to lucid dream at different rates, so do not be discouraged if your partners(s) learn more quickly than you. Just learn from their successes, but be patient with yourself – lucidity is natural and possible, and with hard work you should be able to be awake, lucid and in control in your own dreams so that you might share your own adventures with your supports as well!
As a side benefit, learning how to lucid dream with a partner will mean that the subject of lucidity will come up more often in conversation during the day, and will generally be more prominent in your waking life. In addition, associations with that particular person will be about lucid dreaming, so if they appear in a dream it may trigger you to realize that the dream itself is lucid. All of this will help both of you potentially have more episodes of dream control.
Of course you have to choose your dream control partner wisely if this is going to work – it has to be someone else as motivate as you, and someone you are willing to share at least some of your dream content with.
How to Lucid Dream Using Dream Signs
There are certain very common lucid dream signs that many people use. We’ve listed most of them elsewhere, but they include looking at your hands (which are often distorted in dreams) and looking at your reflection (also often distorted). Using these potential signs in your waking life – looking at your hands or reflection during the day a lot so that perhaps this action will carry over into your dreams – is a very popular way to learn how to lucid dream. But there are many more lucid dream signs – it would not be as fun and adventurous as it is to learn how to have lucid dreams if those were the only differences!
Among other potential lucid dream signs we find:
1. Try to jump in the air. In dreams it may be hard to jump in the same way that you jump in real life – instead you may jump incredibly high or conversely not be able to get off the ground at all.
2. Watch other people carefully. See if they change into new people. In our dream life characters often change, so watching people, if it becomes a habit that carries over into the dream, can be a great lucid dream sign.
3. Look at the details. Lucid dreams often lack certain details that it is hard for your mind to build. Look for details in your everyday life and then you may find yourself dreaming and not seeing them.
4. Look for color, and specifically a wide array of color that is typical for our waking life. Dreams often lack color, or at least details related to color.
As you can see, lucid dream signs can be anything that happens in your waking life that your dream world cannot build. Many details that you can look for during the day can become part of your routine as you learn how to lucid dream.